09/14/2018 (Fri) 23:09:01
> Of all the sexual fetishes in the world, financial domination has perhaps one of the most glamourous images.
> Beautiful women are sent money and lavished with expensive gifts by men who want next-to-nothing in return - it’s all about submitting to the dominant woman and relinquishing control over your finances.
> Much like physical forms of BDSM, it’s this surrendering of power that is arousing. But in the majority of cases, the dominatrix (domme) and the submissive never meet - it's all done online.
> Some financial domination (or findom) relationships consist of one-off payments, others are regimented regular transferrals of money and some men even hand over passwords and total control of their bank accounts to a domme, asking her to devise a minimal budget too.
> But what’s the attraction for the men? We asked a self-proclaimed submissive - or “cash-pig,” as the men are known - to explain.
> “The arousal factor comes from the thought of the domme invading the personal space that is your finances,” Steve* explains. “People measure their self worth with their money and so utilise it as a method of psychological self harm.”
> Indeed, in our society we are largely defined by our money, and it’s often the marker men use to compare themselves to others.
> “Financial domination scoops up this notion of human beings and weaponises it as something kinky. It's intimacy, in a very capitalistic and masochistic way,” Steve explains.
> He believes that most submissives get into findom due to low self-esteem, and they have an “inability to deal with rejection, humiliation, loneliness, fear of being unwanted and redundant in today’s rapid-paced society.”